When parents age, their responsibilities continue, yet their capabilities may decline
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Count Your Days: Reflecting on the Time with Our Parents
Photography by Elizaveta Schefler
Scrolling through Instagram recently, I stumbled upon a heartwarming video that left me pondering an unsettling question – "You only get twelve summers with your dog. Make them count." That statement made me think of the people in my life, whose summer days may eventually run out. Here's my take on the topic, prompted by our community's reflection on what keeps young adults busy these days.
Life seems to be moving at a rapid pace, with the constant pressure of deadlines, schoolwork, and building a career. Juggling those responsibilities can sometimes make it difficult for us to spend as much time with our loved ones as we'd like. Yet, the awareness that our time with them is limited starts to creep in.
My first encounter with this feeling came when I saw that furry creature on Instagram – a sweet Golden Retriever. But it wasn't the dog that caught my attention; it was the text floating at the bottom of the screen: "On average, you only get twelve summers with your dog. Make them count." Translation: "You only have twelve summers with the people who matter most in your life. Make those moments memorable."
For many, the idea of counting the remaining summers with their parents feels daunting, and unrealistic. But I believe it's crucial to bring awareness to the fact that our time is indeed limited, even if we're not always conscious of its passage.
Priorities, Procrastination, and Planning
Many of us are aware that we should spend more time with our parents. But setting that intention is often overshadowed by the demands of daily life. The thought that our time may not be enough creeps in much more frequently than our actual visits. Frequently, I find myself planning to call them in the morning, only to realize at night that I've once again put it off.
I justify my procrastination by thinking that it's impossible, as if life circumstances conspire against my desire to connect with my parents. In truth, time-management and prioritization have left my intention of visiting more often buried beneath a long list of tasks. My need to excel academically and career-wise often eclipses my longing to spend time with my loved ones.
Quantifying Our Time Together
On average, we might have about 20 to 30 days each year spent at home, if we go there every couple of weeks for a few days. That's more than "one summer," but it's still a far cry from a full year. This realization hit me one evening as I calculated the math in my head: 20 to 30 days per year for the next 15 years, add that up, and you get 300 to 450 days together. That's roughly a year.
So, what does all this mean? It's a reminder to cherish the moments we do have with our parents instead of fretting about the future. It's an encouragement to make our time together a priority, rather than cramming personal visits into an already packed schedule. The number of days doesn't have to be set in stone; we can choose to make changes, to be more intentional about our time together.
And I cling to that: The mundane details of daily life, captured in notes and messages on my phone – conversation snippets, little inside jokes, everything that builds a precious tapestry of memories. A friend of mine saves physical memorabilia every month, like photos and ticket stubs in albums. For me, every moment we manage to capture is a treasure trove of memories that we can hold onto, no matter how many summers remain.
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