The Pursuit of Security May Potentially Misguide Us
Human's inherent desire for security, a trait as old as our ancestors, often remains difficult to define. While individuals can identify circumstances that offer a sense of security, they might struggle to explain what security itself entails.
Dating back to our early human ancestors, the need for security stemmed from the urge to create a safe haven, a resource that could serve as a refuge in the face of danger. As long as they knew its location and could reach it promptly, they felt secure.
This notion is comparable to saving for unexpected expenses or planning for potential threats—having resources on hand that can be accessed when needed. For instance, if a bank where one keeps savings were absorbed into an unfamiliar system, the uncertainty about its name and operation can underscore the importance of familiarity in one's sense of security.
Familiarity, therefore, emerges as a crucial element of security. This can lead many to endure uncomfortable situations, as the fear of the unknown hinders them from making a change. Our ancient ancestors, faced with unexplored territories and potential dangers, were wary—a wariness that has been translated into what we now know as "anxiety."
Individuals may persist in loveless relationships or tolerate poor work conditions because they are familiar, and the unknown seems more daunting. Sometimes, this familiarity can perpetuate harmful cycles, such as in abusive relationships where an individual stayed due to a subconscious belief that the situation was safe.
This pattern often starts in childhood and can be traced back to observing one parent mistreat the other and the other's passive response. This observation can lead to the adoption of similar behaviors in adulthood, seeking the same dynamic to feel secure.
Both the abuser and the abused are far from content, caught in a learned pattern that falsely promises security. The abused remain silent to avoid the insecurity of abandonment, while the abuser acts out to assert their dominance.
Solutions for these deeply ingrained patterns can be elusive, and many may not even realize there's a problem. However, modern therapy techniques like BrainWorking Recursive Therapy (BWRT) can bring about rapid change by focusing on changing the subconscious's reactions to the world, rather than dwelling on the past.
Terence Watts, the founder of BWRT, developed this therapy to help individuals manage and change subconscious reactions and learned patterns, potentially offering quick and effective solutions for various mental health challenges. By eliminating limiting processes, resolving psychological blocks, and focusing on neural manifestation, BWRT can help individuals respond more effectively to situations that previously triggered fear or anxiety.
Therapy like BrainWorking Recursive Therapy (BWRT) can help individuals address deep-rooted patterns stemming from family dynamics, offering potential solutions for harmful cycles in relationships. This therapy aims to change subconscious reactions to the world, providing a means to manage and surpass learned patterns that hinder mental health. By focusing on neural manifestation and eliminating psychological blocks, individuals can more effectively handle situations that trigger fear or anxiety. This shift in the subconscious can lead to improved health-and-wellness, mental-health, and lifestyle, ultimately fostering a sense of security.
